For partners · Menstrual phase
How to support her during her period
Her period is when energy is often lowest and her body works the hardest. Here is what happens day by day, and how you can make it easier for her.
Get ready: Have a hot water bottle, painkillers and her favorite food ready.
Three rules first
She is the authority. Lunatwin shows averages, not her. If she feels different from what the app says, she is right.
Adjust yourself. Use what you learn to show up for her. Never explain her mood with her cycle.
Be open. Tell her you use Lunatwin. It is care, not surveillance.
Period, day 1
Warmth, rest and food. You handle the rest.
What’s happening
Estrogen and progesterone are at their lowest. The uterus contracts to shed its lining, and that is what causes cramps.
How she may feel
Often the day with the most pain and the heaviest bleeding. Tired, cold and low on energy. Many also feel relief that the days before their period are over.
What helps
- Ask briefly and concretely if she needs anything: a hot water bottle, painkillers or food.
- Take care of practical things without being asked: groceries, cooking, tidying.
- Lower your expectations. The couch and a movie make a good date today.
What to avoid
- Don’t comment on her mood or link it to her period.
- Don’t push plans or sex. Let her take the initiative.
Things to say
- “Do you need anything? Tea, a hot water bottle, something to eat?”
- “Stay where you are, I’ll handle dinner.”
Better left unsaid
- “Are you on your period or something?”
- “It can’t hurt that much, can it?”
Date idea
Couch date: a blanket, a hot water bottle, her favorite show and food delivered to the door.
If you’re apart
Send something that needs no reply: “Thinking of you, call if you want to talk.” Or have her favorite food delivered.
Period, day 2
Still running low. Take on the heavy lifting.
What’s happening
Hormones are still low. Bleeding is often as heavy as yesterday, but the pain tends to ease during the day.
How she may feel
Still low on energy, and she may have slept badly. A little more like herself than yesterday.
What helps
- Keep up the care without fussing: warm food, tea and calm.
- Suggest a gentle walk if she is up for it. Light movement eases cramps for many.
- Let her set the pace.
What to avoid
- Don’t take low energy personally.
- Don’t book big social plans today without checking with her first.
Things to say
- “Do you want company, or do you need a bit of peace?”
- “Want to go for a slow walk later, if you feel up to it?”
Better left unsaid
- “Are you going to lie on the couch all day?”
Date idea
A short walk and hot chocolate afterwards. Simple and calm.
If you’re apart
A video call in the evening where you just talk or watch something together.
Period, last days
Her energy is on its way back.
What’s happening
Estrogen starts rising again, and the bleeding tapers off.
How she may feel
Energy gradually returns and her mood lifts. For some, desire is already coming back.
What helps
- Start planning something nice for the days ahead.
- Normal closeness is good again. Follow her signals.
- Ask how she is doing, and listen to the answer.
What to avoid
- Don’t assume everything is back to normal. She may still be tired.
Things to say
- “What do you feel like doing once you’re feeling better?”
- “I’ve missed you a bit these days.”
Better left unsaid
- “Finally over?”
Date idea
Plan the weekend together: a hike, an exhibition or dinner out.
If you’re apart
A good day to agree on when you will see each other next.
General information, not medical advice. Every body and every cycle is different, and she is always the authority on how she feels. Lunatwin is not contraception and can’t be used to prevent or plan a pregnancy.